Love observing the change.
I get to spend a lot of time away from my family and my friends. And it's all good. However it sounds like, I love it.
In meantime, cause of the experiences we are having, we are all changing.
The change itself is wonderful. I see it as a butterfly coming out of its cocoon, as a necessity.
So, each time I meet them again it's like meeting a brand new person. That's how I approach and it's fun.
Where it starts to be interesting is when someone tries to treat a changed person the same way as before.
What happens then is, either the changed person will stick to theirs new self, and just simply change the conversation (avoid the situation), or they'll quickly come down and behave as they used to.
Let me give you and example.
Let's say you are afraid of driving a car. All of your friends know that.
Time passes by, and you decide to break that fear and start working on it slowly. The first step you take is just imagining that you sit behind the wheel, feeling safe, feeling comfortable, maybe turning on the radio, listening to some music, rocking from side to side, it's okay.
A day goes by... One of your friends comes to pick you up for coffee. You are all excited and exhilarated that you are going to sit so close to that driving seat, watching your friend with ease sliding through those streets. The radio is turned on, you remember the feeling of sitting behind the wheel. It's all good. You feel good.
If you still haven't got introduced your friend to your new decision/experience, when they pick this subject up, they will behave as you are still afraid. Which is true. You are still not 100% feeling free to drive, but what that conversation will only do is kill those 5 % you had built.
What you can do in those kind of situations is to avoid them, or if you have a healthy relationship with that person, tell them as soon as you can that you 'upgraded'.
Funny thing is, we are changing so fast on so different levels, for some changes we are not even aware. So even if you wanted to, you can't keep up your friends with all of your changes.
This is not applying on fears only. It can be about anything.
It's about what the other person already knows about you, and expects you to behave in that way.
I have a wonderful circle of people. All of them working on themselves, so when we gather, there is a pleasing, loving conversation about our new discoveries, what's new that we enjoy, which habits we've left, which ones are new.
Anyways, despite that we are talking about this, I still catch myself or them, expecting some behaviors, and it's okay. As soon as we catch ourselves before taking action, it's fine.
Do you like what you're talking about with your friends? Which drum you beat when you are together? I hope it's the good feeling one.
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